Baby Shower Hostess Tips

The debate over how many baby showers a couple is “permitted” to have takes on many forms. Some say only first borns, while others think different genders (if you even know that in advance) makes the exception, still others say long gaps between births or children from a new marriage clears the way for another shower. In the end, every child is special and deserving of a celebration.

Who
Ask the expectant mother for the guest list and determine whether it will be an all women shower or co-ed. If the shower is a surprise, ask someone in her family for the guest list. Remember to include friends and relatives of both the expectant parents.

What
Even if you don’t specify a theme it’s important to establish whether the party will be formal or casual. This will drive all of the decisions about location, food, decorations and favors.

Where
The classic shower is held at home with only women, but today’s options are endless. For second or third showers, a simple dinner at a restaurant or a focus on pampering mom with a spa treatment may be more desirable. Dinner parties or barbecues are ideal for showers that include both dads and kids.

When
Traditionally, showers are held in the last trimester of pregnancy, although some prefer to wait until after the baby arrives to have a shower.

Why
Not every expectant mom wants a shower but even the reluctant guest-of-honor should know that someone wants to throw a shower for her. If she refuses, nudge gently but know when to take no for answer.